So I've been inspired to write about the parenting thing.
Why? you ask?
Well let's just say that I have zero tolerance for other parents who criticize and judge thinking their shit don't stink. Honestly, you know you're not a perfect parent so please stop trying to tell others how to be one.
Who is sick of strangers, friends and even family thinking they can tell you how to be a parent? Or worse, questioning you?
Yeah, join the club.
I have a big problem with this. It's like breastfeeding, you need to mind your own damn business. If you don't like it, TOO BAD.
Every parent has a different parenting style. On top of that everyone has a different life style. So that's two things right there that will change how you go about things on a daily basis.
I think there's a very big difference between taking care of your child and SPOILING your child to death that you think you're the best parent in the world. I understand if you want to give your child everything you never had but that doesn't mean it's okay to raise a little brat.
If babysitting my siblings when I was younger taught me anything, I learned you CANNOT buy your child everything they desire and let them run wild hoping they become some kind of brain surgeon. That's NOT going to happen. I've seen it. A lot. Hell, I was one of those kids myself.
I'm not giving advice or saying I'm a perfect parent. Far from it. At least I can admit that. But let me tell you something, my kids have a roof over their head (that I pay for), they eat, they get taken out to places I didn't even go to at their age (like on nice vacations). They're boys so they may not be neat freaks 100% of the time but you know what? They have manners (even though the little one - 2yr old- is picking up some bad habits from other toddlers which we're not letting him get away with).
They pick up after themselves, they know what a bad word is, they know WHO the parent is (not them), they ask for things (not take them) and they WILL BE RESPECTFUL HUMAN BEINGS. I'm not even as strict as some parents can be but I won't let them get away with things they shouldn't do or say.
How many parents can say they are actually teaching and showing their child these things. I'm talking mostly about kids under 10 because I don't have teenagers and I'm sure that's a whole different story. BUT if you don't teach them these things when they're young, they definitely won't learn when they're in their teen years. If they do, well it might be too late. Take me for example, I was pregnant at seventeen and that's not something to be proud of, although I love my Julian. He's the oldest but will forever be my pumpkin. Still, I don't want my kid to get some girl pregnant while he's still in high school, all because I didn't tell him how important school is and what it's like to have a child before you're even twenty. But that's something else that deserves it's own post.
Another thing, when you work 40+ hours a week and you also have to run errands, do housekeeping and whatever else you have to do when you have time, you do what you can to stay sane and STILL manage to do the parent thing.
When you sit on your ass at home and pop ten kids out no problem, live with your in-laws and you're so up your partner's ass you can't see straight, well to put it kindly you are NO ONE to judge ANYONE.
So next time, if you don't have anything nice to say, THEN DON'T FUCKING SAY IT. It's very simple.
No one likes a hypocrite and that just really reminds the rest of us who are actually trying to RAISE a kid and how pathetic you are for trying to tell someone what they should do when it comes to parenting when you don't even have your life figured out.
I know there's a lot of people that can relate and I hate that there's parents who let their kids listen to garbage music and watch garbage TV, things they shouldn't hear or see because their parents don't care. If you want to raise a child that says bad words and is selfish, isn't polite, doesn't know that NO means NO and gets away with being mean to other kids, then that's on YOU.
Anyway, this wasn't mean to be a rant. But I get so sick and tired of these people and the more I hear it and see it, the more upset it makes me.
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Stefany Rattles is the author of the Darkest Nights Series & Sweet Dreams Series. Visit her author bio & contact page for more info.
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